Date smart, stay safe

Safety tips

• Meet the first few times in a busy public place — café, restaurant, park in daylight.
• Tell a friend where you're going, who you're meeting and when you expect to be back.
• Arrange your own ride there and home. Don't rely on your date for transport.
• Keep your drink with you. If you leave it, order a new one.
• Keep chats inside PastHello until you're comfortable sharing your number.
• Use your Agreement: say "Not yet" or "Just no" any time — it's timestamped and must be honored.
• Trust your gut. It's always OK to leave early.

Red flags

• Asks for money, gift cards, crypto or help with an "emergency".
• Refuses video chat or keeps delaying meeting in person.
• Pushes to move off the app right away.
• Love-bombing: intense affection or "soulmate" talk within days.
• Story details change, or photos look too polished or inconsistent.
• Pressures you to cross a boundary you've already set.
• Gets angry or guilt-trips when you say no.

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